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Don't Be a Stranger

by Nervous Dater

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nat clayton
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nat clayton the longer I sit with this album the more it feels like Lightner's lyrics have a direct line to my emotional core. the way they write about anxiety, relationships with others and the self, hits in a way that feels so absolutely raw, real, unfiltered. Call In The Mess is incredible as a follow-up, but I always find myself coming back to Bad Spanish, Serenity and Wavelengths. Favorite track: Bad Spanish.
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jjj They were really good (and friendly) live! Favorite track: Bad Spanish.
Richard Sanghera
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Richard Sanghera One of my favorite albums of 2017. It still gives me a dopamine rush whenever I hear it, and Rachel Lightner's voice captures the self-lacerating anger and desperation of her words perfectly
soands0
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soands0 One of my favorite albums of the year, loved it from the first time I listened. I tried to find my favorite track on this album, but kept changing it after listening through the album because I truly enjoyed every one. Favorite track: Vominos.
Everybody ok back here?
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Everybody ok back here? There is no valid reason for Bad Spanish not to be the current indie big thing. No reason at all. Favorite track: Bad Spanish.
whalleyrulz
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whalleyrulz rachel lightener sings about imposter syndrome over and over like the lovechild of frances quinlan and emily haines and i've put more hours into this album than my next top three of the year combined Favorite track: Don't Be a Stranger.
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1.
Bad Spanish 03:13
Keep my mouth shut cause I don’t deserve anything Feeling like a fraud at my job, cause I’ve faked my way Into every good thing that’s ever happened to me Write a happy song cause I don’t wanna mope today Try to sing along, but the thoughts they don’t go away I will say the worst things to make you stay It’s hard to ask for help if you don’t really want it Passed out on the train in your own vomit “It’s fine” I said, I’ll bash my fucking head through the wall So I don’t have to call you before I go to bed “Alright” I said, won’t hold my fucking breath while you’re gone But I feel it in my lungs Before I go to bed Dreaming in bad spanish bout your romantic tendencies And how they would translate in your fucked up fantasies You’re the only good thing That’s ever happened to me It’s hard to ask for help if you don’t really want it Passed out on the train in your own vomit “It’s fine” I said, I’ll bash my fucking head through the wall So I don’t have to call you before I go to bed “Alright” I said, I’ll scrape my knuckles red Stucco wall Do I have to be sad to get off? I’ll never leave my head
2.
Fun Dumpster 02:42
Here I go again, the typical dead end Of setting myself up for another sick mindfuck Cause unattainable love and dumb life goals Have gotten me this far And doing nothing’s just too hard Well, I’ve always been some degree of creepy When I want something I want it bad I’ll get drunk and beg for you to meet me I know you hardly know me But I couldn’t take things slowly if I tried I’ve never been the type to settle for “just fine” I would it’s just that my ego won’t let me sleep at night Cause unattainable love and dumb life goals Have gotten me this far And doing nothing’s just too hard I wore a dress for you Cause you’re nicer when I do Doin’ nothing Doin’ nothing Doin’ nothing Nothing is just too hard
3.
There was a man reading self help books on a crowded subway train And as I stared at the floor I thought it must be nice To have that kind of mindframe Read it cover to cover and soak up every thought Til you wake up one morning and just get to be someone you’re not Cause when things get quiet I feel uneasy I need my friends or at least just the sound of the TV To keep these things in my head from screaming “You’re inadequate! You’re a piece of shit! You could run forever but you’d never get away with it! And if people really knew who you were, They’d probably cover up the ground that you walk on with spit!” ‘Don’t be a stranger’ means stay away As far away as you can Because you’re unstable Like that’s all I need right now How could you possibly understand? And I still dress just like I’m sixteen And I still get way too drunk during the week Still got way too much on my plate But none of it ever makes me feel complete and I Let my bills pile up as high as they can It only took me 27 fucking years to finally understand that when she said ‘Don’t be a stranger’ means stay away As far away as you can Because you’re unstable Like that’s all I need right now How could you possibly understand? You’ll be the one who keeps me up at night ‘Don’t be a stranger’ means stay as far away as you can When my friends say they’re fine I just think they don’t know where to begin I’m happy that you’re happy but I’m sad we’ll never speak again If I could do this over I know that this is how it would end Pack up and don’t ever come back I never meant to make you so sad
4.
Serenity 03:16
Why is this so weird? We should be friends I don't really want to, but it's the only way we'll get through this Cause we're at all the same shows And we love all the same people But you're incapable, so I'm releasing all my ropes Don't tell me it meant nothing Sink me serenity, I need a bath This anxious fire's been burning through my better half I was comfortable being lonely But now I'm back and I'm beat, whiskey neat til I sleep I guess I just want you to feel a little bit miserable Cause I feel like shit, and you've been dismissing it Some selfish form of justice that won't make me feel better at all I know it's wrong, but I gotta be honest at least for the sake of my bitter, rotten soul I wish this wasn't so weird, I miss being your friend, And I still don't really know what happened And this all really sucks We're pissing off our friends Now I'm back drinking the liquor and playing the pitied fool again I agree, it meant nothing Sink me serenity, I need a bath This anxious fire's been burning through my better half I was comfortable being lonely But now I'm back and I'm beat, whiskey neat til I sleep Frisk me felicity and make it last Or marinate me in gasoline and make it fast I want to hit reset and call off all my bets Make it all go away like nothing happened
5.
It’s so embarrassing How hard I take to heart the things you sing So many people love me I’m so fucking lucky I never can quite understand The pidgin language you speak with your friends I’m always behind one beat They’re so fucking lucky I’m not the type to wait by the phone But if you call me up, I probably won’t say no I’m scared the problem isn’t even you Jesus christ, your head felt so nice In my lap on the chinatown bus I’m so fucking lucky You’re so fucking lucky
6.
Vominos 04:03
Chronic satisfactory Feeling right and lonely That I won't exceed Vomit into the sink Purging all that's fleeing Fast and hard from me. How do I? I reply Reach into the coffee cup And stir the words right up Out of the muck, tell me my luck Read to me my fortune Spelled in grounds that float on top They say It won't leave your body They say It won't leave your thoughts Anyway It won't clear your conscience It makes no sense left to stay Last night You dove back in my head Woke me from my slumber When you scratched on my leg I won’t field questions With eye whites webbed and Swollen, looks like yarn so red Where are my keys I left them with my phone I left them in the loft up in Zachary's home Follow, following Me as I escape through crowded Brooklyn streets Her first night was filled with tears Mine nuanced, suffused with all her fears. Reality check - reality lacks The explanation that her worries have been facts I don't want to go outside I don't want to have to face my pride Just let his feeling in me subside Let this feeling in me die I love in small doses Until the floodgate opens So I kill any sense of the word And let my breath become still
7.
Run Home 03:25
I’ll run home when the water runs cold over my bones I won’t soak in this like before And all the years that I’ve sold to my brain and where it goes I don’t sleep sound like before I’ll run home, I’ll run home I’ll run home, I’ll run home It’s in my head, it’s in my tone It’s in my head, it’s in my tone When the sun came, I don’t know where my body went Retrace pipelines to find I have fallen down again Never get up, never get up Never get up off the basin Never get up, never get up Never get up off the basin Oh, it goes it goes it goes Oh, it goes it goes it goes I don’t wanna make a sound Let it pass me all around Oh, I know I know I know Oh, I know I know I know I don’t wanna settle down Or bury my head in the ground Oh my ghost just go just go Oh my ghost just go just go Leave me right where I was found Let me fade into the crowd
8.
I was silent in my room when you told me how he died Oh my god, born 1985 Now I have outlived him, I have seen more through his eyes They never remember you were even alive It’s all just a matter of time A broken plate, a vile date Spoons that cut like knives An open flame takes the blame From the substance left inside Collapsed veins like interstate congestion on 95 Let me slip into the dark of the night, Let me slip into the dark of the night Slip into the dark of the night Jackie’s got the drugs, Jackie’s got the drugs, Jackie’s got the drugs and holy fuck he’s gonna take them Jackie doesn’t know, Jackie doesn’t know Jackie doesn’t know what the drugs they gon’ done to him Danny’s got the drugs, Danny’s got the drugs Danny’s got the drugs and holy fuck he’s gonna take them Danny doesn’t know, Danny doesn’t know Danny doesn’t know what the drugs they gon’ done to him
9.
Saratoga 03:06
Nervous feelings of a panic coming on As I sit in Saratoga all night long Dirty fingertips smell of cigarette smoke As I look back on what just happened Pass your stop and I choke Stumble inside Wait til everyone falls asleep then I cry Wake up in the morning, find a safe place to hide When your smell is still in my bed Just try to stay occupied But every time I try it’s like my synapses are burnt out and fried In a stagnant monotone Say “I can’t do this on my own” Put everything under a microscope Smoke too much dope and lose hope Like that’s a perfectly fine way to cope As I lie to myself ripped up a million pieces back on the shelf Lay on my back Take another sip until I cough up and hack all the ugly things i thought I stuffed in a sack like lies and crashing waves I know it’s all coming back But I will stay occupied And hopefully when I try it’s like my synapses aren’t burnt out and fried In a stagnant monotone Say “I can’t do this on my own” With every single weakness shown No I can’t do this on my own OH MY GOD Up late and it won’t shut off Cause it’s never enough
10.
Wavelengths 02:48
Firefly Neon guts and toxic insides Glowing bright but only mother’s eyes Will see you the way I did The blackest ice scraped your lover’s hands And what a price you paid for taking acid just that night In the morning you called to say “I could see wavelengths and you were on mine Why don’t we just settle down and see It all fall apart ourselves?” I’m alone I always have been and it feels like home I won’t drop by, I won’t pick up the phone Unless it’s you calling I’ll squash you slow And write my songs in neon ink that glows Tell me something I don’t already know Not the same bullshit like “I could see wavelengths and you were on mine Why don’t we just settle down and see It all fall apart ourselves?”

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released September 29, 2017

Vinyl/Shirts: www.counterintuitiverecords.com/products/596984

Nervous Dater is
Rachel Lightner, Kevin Cunningham, Andrew Goetz, & Yon Heenan

Additional Vocals - Megan Gouda & Kelly McGovern
Trumpet & Flugelhorn - Brad Lightner

Artwork - "Age 0-21" by Evan Laudenslager from the Memorium series
Layout & Design - Hilary Guilliams

Recorded at Headroom Studios in Philadelphia, PA
Produced / Mixed by Joe Reinhart
Mastering by Ryan Schwabe - Philadelphia, PA
Counter Intuitive Records, 2017

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Brooklyn punk trio Nervous Dater are releasing their second full-length record, Call In The Mess, on February 26 via Counter Intuitive Records.

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